Tips for caring for a loved one living with dementia

When a parent, partner, or loved one is diagnosed with dementia, it can feel like everything changes — routines, relationships, responsibilities. For many families, it’s hard to know what to do.

Here we answer some of the most common questions relatives ask about dementia care — and explain where to find support when it’s hard to manage alone.

1. Caring for a loved one with dementia: Where do I start?

To care for a loved one living with dementia, it is important to have three key principles in mind:

• Establish a consistent routine – predictability reduces confusion and anxiety.
• Use simple, calm communication techniques – speak slowly, avoid arguing or correcting, and validate feelings.
• Support independence where possible – encourage your loved one to participate in small tasks to maintain dignity and confidence.

Don’t wait too long to seek help. Early support can dramatically improve quality of life for both the person living with dementia and those caring for them.

2. What to do if someone living with dementia refuses care?

This is one of the most difficult challenges relatives face — and one of the most searched questions online: “What to do if someone living with dementia refuses care?”

Refusal often comes from fear, confusion, or a loss of control. Here are a few strategies that may help:

• Use a gentle approach. Never force care – offer choices and time.
• Try a different person. Sometimes a loved one might refuse help from a family member, but accept it from a professional.
• Build familiarity. Introduce caregivers slowly and consistently so they become part of the routine.
• Reframe tasks. Instead of saying “time for your shower”, try “let’s freshen up before lunch”.

Most importantly: always remember you’re not doing anything wrong. Refusal is common and manageable with the right tools and support.

3. How do you get respite care?

Everyone needs a break — especially family caregivers.

If you’re wondering how you can get respite care when caring for a loved one living with dementia, the answer depends on your location and what type of support you need. Some common options include:

• Respite care – a professional caregiver comes into the home to give you time to rest or recharge
• Day programmes – safe, engaging settings for people living with dementia during the day
• Overnight or short-term stays – in care homes or hospitals, usually pre-arranged for a specific period

At Dovida, we can help you recharge by providing flexible in-home respite care tailored to your family’s needs — whether for a few hours or a few days.

How Dovida supports families living with dementia

At Dovida, we specialise in dementia care that’s grounded in human connection and a person-centred approach:

• We carefully match your loved one with a caregiver who fits their personality and interests
• Our Caregivers are trained in dementia-specific care, including how to gently manage refusal and build trust
• We offer flexible support, including respite care for families who need a break

Ready to talk?

If you’re looking for advice or support with caring for a loved one living with dementia, contact us today. We’re here to listen — and help you find the right way forward.

Get dementia care for peace of mind.